I believe manners in general are still important. Just because life has spun out into warp speed via texting and the internet and our advancements in science and technology have awarded us with easier lives than our predecessors does not mean we should abandon that which was gracious and courteous in simpler centuries.
How refreshing it feels when a young person offers a tender, "thank you" after receiving something given to them. Or a polite "please" when the lady at the table next to you asks for the ketchup during the lunch rush. And a genuine "excuse me" when a businessman's briefcase accidentally bonks you in passing. Said with sincere kindness, these meek words speak volumes. The person offering these sentiments cares and took the time to verbally address the encounter with thoughtfulness.
In other words, they were not raised by wolves, grunting commands, ordering people around and never acknowledging an act of generosity, however great or small.
And while we're at it, why not hold that door open instead of allowing it to whack the person behind you coming through? I am a middle-aged woman and I have no problem providing this courtesy to anyone behind me.
If you see someone struggling to secure a bag in an overhead compartment on an airplane, what harm can it do to offer a hand to help?
If a young mother has her hands full with her infant and her diaper bag, keys, a bottle of water, etc, and something drops from her bag, why not stoop to retrieve it for her if you happen to be walking by?
And if you are in a public place and require the use of the bathroom, don't make a mess and leave it for someone else to clean up. That's not only rude, that's gross!
The examples could go on for days.
Common kindness used to be second nature, a code that was instilled in the minds of our forefathers and mothers from day one. I, for one, am in favor of rekindling that friendly flame.
The closer technology has connected us in terms of keeping in touch instantly, the further the wedge that's been widened when it comes to dealing one on one with others in person. Sometimes I think people have lost their minds when they fail to offer even the most basic courtesy to others in public. Computers are great, but they can also be isolating. Too much time spent with a computer in your face as opposed to a flesh and blood, breathing human can be cause for social disconnect.
So, the next time you are in a situation that calls for an act of chivalry or common courtesy, channel your inner knight in shining armor or wonder woman and be the one that acts (and speaks) with grace...
Well said.
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